Have You Ever Pondered On This: Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?
This has been a question that had played in my mind for a short period of time in my life, as I would think a lot of women have pondered. Trust me, you won’t be the first and you won’t be the last…… But try to make it your last time of having to ask yourself this question. I have been through the cheating boyfriend matter and after the all the apologies and the making up is done, this question will pop into your head. But ladies now, at this point, you have to be on your game. Like the saying, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!” Don’t fall for it the next time.
I think this question applies individually in each different relationship that has had to deal with cheating. In my opinion, (and I am a religious person), I think that anyone can be changed. God has the power to change anyone. Sometimes life’s events and occasional surprises can open up one’s eyes to what’s really important in life. While being caught and maybe losing the relationship is sometimes enough to open that cheating person eyes, and sometimes, it’s not enough. I’ve seen instances where there have been illegitimate children to come from outside relationships and it has been alright with the spouse. I’ve heard the apologies, seen the tears, and listened to excuses. So actions are going to have to play the ultimate decision maker. Are his/her actions saying that this change is real or are you listening to the same excuses on why he/she can’t answer the phone or spend some quality time? You are going to have to LOOK, and pay close attention to the actions. Is everything going back to it was before he/she got caught cheating? If so, or you find yourself asking this question too many times, then I think you already have your answer. But the next part is being strong and real enough to really accept your answer (Even if it’s not the one you want to hear).
So, I guess the real questions to ask yourself is, if it happens again, will you, A) put up with It?, or B) decide to let the relationship go and move on in life. But if you answer A, expect to ask yourself the next question, “How many times are you going to put up with it?”
Sheka Cleary holds a degree in healthcare management and is currently pursuing a degree in Social Work. She is mother of 4, a wife; and a helping hand and an inspiration to those around her, in the community, thus the degree in Social Work. She is currently a guest blogger for http://www.darealtalk.com, and hopefully you will be hearing more from her soon.