Last night for class we had to watch clips from “The Notebook” to look at Dementia. For those of you haven’t seen it, the movie is about a couple that fell in love and remained in love through hard times, including Dementia. This man loved this woman, even when she was no longer able to recognize him or their children. So the question was posed between some of the students on the way to the parking lot ~”Does love like that exist anymore?”
The problem is no one stays in a marriage long enough to find out. People seem to be more intrigued with the wedding then the marriage itself. The first sign of discomfort, some people want to run. As always I am not talking about discomforts such a cheating and abuse. But there are those issues though like bills, kids, cultural differences, etc. that can be worked out.
Marriage equals work, there is no way around it. If you don’t plan to work at it, you should not get married. If you ask anybody that has been married 20 years and up, how they make it last they will tell you “WORK.”
Some people fail to realize that even though you are joining together as a couple, you have spent many years being individuals developing your own habits, styles, etc. When you bring both individual habits and styles together you have to be ready to work at converging the two together to find what works for the both of you. Key word again “WORK.”
So to answer the question does love like that exist anymore, I will say yes, but only to the ***couples who are willing to put in the work***