What You See Is What You Get!!!!!
(repost from old site)
I am dropping this post for those of you who are about to get married, and those of you who have recently gotten married (trying to figure out what is going on). This tidbit of information should not apply to those of you who have been married for a while. I would hope that at this point, in your marriage, that you have learned at least this much, by now. However, if you have been married for a while and still have not learned this please pay close attention, along with the engaged couples and the newlyweds.
Many times people, some ladies and men alike, have this notion that when they get married they are going to be able to change a person. Now I know those of you that have already realized this concept, are thinking to yourselves, isn’t that just common sense. Well, more often than not people fail to realize this fact. They have it in their mind that once they get married that they can make that person into the person you want them to be. I am here to tell you that if you do not let that mindset go you will be in a world of disappointment.
I cannot emphasize this point enough, what you see is what you get. What they have displayed about themselves, before marriage are who they really are. Trust me when I say just like you have no intention of changing your ways, they have no intention to changing theirs.
But wait; there is hope for them to change. However, it won’t be because you changed them, it will be because they wanted too, and God did it. But now that you know they can change asked yourself do you really want to take that chance waiting on them to change. I said there was hope, but I didn’t say it was a guarantee, so you have to make that a personal decision, whether or not you want to chance it or run.
All I am saying is think about it wisely and don’t go into marriage with false hopes and expectations, about trying to change someone. Just something to think about.